Heal Patterns of Self-Neglect

3 hour Healing Masterclass

Heal patterns of self-neglect, so that you can set clear boundaries and learn to nurture yourself

21 November 2024 at 12:00-15:00 UK time / 7:00-10:00am EST

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Can you imagine what it would be like when ...

YOU FEEL SAFE

You can’t set clear boundaries and priorities yourself because a part of you doesn’t feel safe to say ‘no’ to others. There may be a subconscious programming that you can only be safe if you take care of everyone else first. It’s time to change that story.

YOU FIND OUT WHO YOU ARE

With time, patterns of self-neglect can become a part of your identity. What’s more, you might be carrying other people’s energies. It’s time to release the ancestral and parental burdens of neglect so that you can start thriving.

YOU FEEL CONNECTED

Sometimes you may neglect yourself because you want someone else to do it for you, namely your mum or dad. This pattern of self-neglect is often very young. It’s time to reconnect with that part, so that connection feels possible.

YOU FEEL ENERGISED

Self-neglect is draining. You’ve been probably running on empty for decades, if not your whole life. It’s time to fill your own cup so that you can give from the overflow. Saying ‘no’ to others’ expectations means saying ‘yes’ to your needs.

I know what you’re thinking...

I don’t know how it’ll work for me. I get it.

I’ve been neglected as a child. My maternal grandmother was bringing me up, while cooking elaborate meals for a large family, working as a seamstress and keeping the house impeccably clean. She had a very little bandwidth for me so I was often left to my own devices to entertain myself and look after my own hygiene. I grew up watching the adults neglecting themselves, including my grandmother who was orphaned at the age of 10 and learnt to put everyone else first. To fit in, I had to learn to neglect myself too.

Actively healing this neglected inner child and releasing the ancestral patterns set me free from this legacy.

And that’s exactly why I’ve created this 3-hour masterclass.

What people are saying

“Gulara is an extremely gifted and intuitive healer. Deep-rooted and complex imprints were brought to my awareness and cleared with great care. A profound and special experience. Thank you Gulara, it was amazing!”

— Danica M. in Canberra Australia

“My session with Gulara was profound and very meaningful to me. Gulara’s intuitive guidance is exceptional and she guides you right to the core of your matter where healing can take place.”

— Anonymous

What does it take to heal from the patterns of self-neglect?

Step 1. Release ancestral baggage

You learn self-neglect by watching your loved ones to neglect themselves. Children learn by absorbing the patterns in the family and then pass it down from one generation to another. There are other healthier ways of honouring your ancestors.

Step 2. Heal abandonment

Emotional and physical neglect can make you feel abandoned as a child. It’s imperative to heal the wound of abandonment as part of this process, because the inner child may still be waiting for the love of the adults to take care of her needs.

Step 3. Heal numbness

It’s inevitable that you numb down when you feel emotionally or physically neglected. You have to suppress your anger, rage, sadness and helplessness in order to survive. To let go of the self-neglect you need to heal your suppressed emotions.

Step 4. Reclaim your worth

Behind self-neglect there is deep unworthiness. It’s as if you don’t exist and, therefore, don’t deserve good things in life. Everything has to come through hard work to get you some attention and validation. You are worthy of ease.

Hi! I’m Gulara, your Relationship and Trauma Healing Coach

My approach to healing is based on three pillars: healing the root of trauma, integrating the inner split caused by trauma and becoming more embodied and present. I work with a lot of healers and lead practitioner training online and in-person.

Using a unique blend of cutting-edge energy healing methods, I support you in transforming your life and acquiring skills that will enable you to do the same for others. I’m a certified Compassion Key, Non-Personal Awareness, Family Constellations and Identity-oriented Psychotrauma Therapy practitioner, Soul Motion Dance Teacher, Spiritual Acceleration facilitator and Reiki Master.

I’m an energy healer, the author of international bestseller Hammer, Sickle & Broom: A Memoir of Intergenerational Trauma in Azerbaijan and university associate law lecturer.

I live in rural Dartmoor National Park in South England with my two children.