Heal Your Addiction to Struggle & Suffering

3 hour Healing Masterclass

Heal your habitual patterns of struggle and suffering, so that you can finally thrive

24 October 2024 at 12:00-15:00 UK time / 7:00-10:00am EST

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Can you imagine what it would be like when ...

YOU FEEL SAFE

You run patterns of struggle and suffering because deep down you don’t feel safe. There may be a deep subconscious programming that says if you’re small enough, people won’t target you out of envy. Feeling safe can undo these patterns.

YOU FIND OUT WHO YOU ARE

When you’re used to running patterns of struggle and strife, it becomes a part of your identity. But who you truly are is so much more than these limiting beliefs. By letting go of this old programming, you can let your true light shine brightly.

YOU FEEL CONNECTED

Patterns of struggle and suffering are often passed down from one generation to another. The only way to belong with your family system was to suffer like them out of loyalty and solidarity. It’s time to connect from love, not wounding.

YOU CALM YOUR NERVOUS SYSTEM

There’s so much stress from constant striving and pushing. You’ve been probably running on empty for so long. When you finally feel safe enough to slow down, your whole nervous system can reset to create better health and well-being.

I know what you’re thinking...

I don’t know how it’ll work for me. I get it.

Addiction to struggle and suffering ran my life for decades. I grew up hearing my grandmother say that she hadn’t lived a day for herself. Programmes of martyrdom and self-sacrifice permeated my whole being. Somehow suffering was glorified, you were a better person for it, and, of course, I wanted to be a good person and get the love of my family. At some unconscious level, I made things so much more difficult that they needed to be. It’s as if they added validity to my achievements.

Letting go of this pattern and the identity attached to it wasn’t easy, because my whole sense of worth was hinging on this behaviour. My body was addicted to adrenalin and cortisol, so it took time to heal and for my system to relax but it’s so worth it. There’s no drama in my life now. I don’t need it to feel alive.

And that’s exactly why I’ve created this 3-hour masterclass.

What people are saying

“I’m amazed by my session with Gulara. She’s so spot-on and asks just the right questions to get to the core of the issue. I intended to get to the root emotion of an eating disorder that I hadn’t managed to touch upon on my own, and I’m happy to say that we managed to see and hold that emotion of emptiness with love. This is a milestone in my recovery and I’m so grateful for that. I 100% recommend her. Thank you, Gulara!!”

— Milou V. in Netherlands

“Thanks so much Gulara, you have helped me gained clarity and turn towards a path in reclaiming my life and power back. Powerful, intuitive, supportive, compassionate, thoughtful and kind. With much love”

— Giulietta Y. in Vancouver, BC

What does it take to heal from addiction to struggle and suffering?

Step 1. Find your purpose

Sometimes addiction to suffering is driven by a lack of purpose. It’s as if winning the struggle gives you a sense of accomplishment and purpose. Standing still doesn’t feel safe or satisfying. You have to keep pushing to feel alive.

Step 2. Heal abandonment

The abandonment wound is at the heart of struggle and suffering. You feel that if let go of this pattern, you would no longer fit in with people that you love. Healing this wound can create true connections.

Step 3. Heal numbness

It’s inevitable that you numb down when things are hard. In some ways, struggle makes you feel alive. It gives you reason to strive and push. When you heal the suppressed emotions underneath numbness you can feel your true aliveness.

Step 4. Reclaim your worth

Behind struggle and suffering is deep unworthiness. It’s as if you don’t deserve good things in life. Everything has to come through hard work. You learn that suffering dignifies your experience: it’s worth doing if it’s hard. You are worthy of ease.

Hi! I’m Gulara, your Relationship and Trauma Healing Coach

My approach to healing is based on three pillars: healing the root of trauma, integrating the inner split caused by trauma and becoming more embodied and present. I work with a lot of healers and lead practitioner training online and in-person.

Using a unique blend of cutting-edge energy healing methods, I support you in transforming your life and acquiring skills that will enable you to do the same for others. I’m a certified Compassion Key, Non-Personal Awareness, Family Constellations and Identity-oriented Psychotrauma Therapy practitioner, Soul Motion Dance Teacher, Spiritual Acceleration facilitator and Reiki Master.

I’m an energy healer, the author of international bestseller Hammer, Sickle & Broom: A Memoir of Intergenerational Trauma in Azerbaijan and university associate law lecturer.

I live in rural Dartmoor National Park in South England with my two children.