Living life in colour

Does your life feel a bit dull, with a low (or not such a low) level of numbness sometimes? Everything seems to be generally OK, but something’s off… You can feel it, but you’re trying to talk yourself out of it seeing it. Because everything seems to be fine. You have a ‘normal’ life and ‘normal’ challenges.

But telling yourself that everything is fine, when something is off creates confusion.

You don’t understand why you feel what you feel.

So if that's you, I want you to get clear on what it costs you.

Let’s take emotional cost of staying numb and shut down. You get by, sure, but there’s no juice in life, it's a downward spiral. You feel grumpy and irritated for no reason. And then you take it out on the kids and feel awful about yourself. You might be drinking in the evenings or spending too much time with Netflix and comfort food.

You go to bed unsatisfied.

And if even if your partner makes some advances, you don't have energy for fun, because you feel so deadened on the inside.

Take financial cost of this numbness: you don’t feel your best at work. You’re overwhelmed and barely cope with the essentials. Creating something amazing feels beyond your reach. It’s all about appearances of doing the right thing, but on the inside you look forward to when it’s bed time, so that you could finally be left alone.

There are physical costs too. You might struggle to keep the weight off while you’re comfort eating your problems. Your body might give voice to some of your dissatisfaction and upset. Personally, I didn’t make changes until I started getting stabbing pain in my chest.

Wouldn't it be amazing if you could stop feeling off, confused, irritated, frustrated and upset?

What if you could get clear on what it is that you want. And have it.

I know it can be scary to change things because it can create an upheaval. So we numb out, shut things down and have a level of okay-ness that feels utterly unsatisfying.

I know that place so well. A few years back, that was my reality. I had financial stability, I had a good job, I had my kids, a house, a car, a lot of expensive holidays, a good husband. So things were okay. But the sense of aliveness was missing, and I was scared to change anything just in case I would create an upheaval in my life.

Eventually, it became unbearable just to be OK. I wanted to feel alive.

I got clear on what I want and took positive action.

There are certain benefits of black and white life, otherwise you wouldn’t stay there for so long. It feels reasonably safe because you’re controlling your environment and shutting down your emotions.

But life in colour helps you to stand on your own two feet. You feel a sense of calm and contentment on the inside even when there are things happening around you. You start having more fun, like going to a dance class and making space to what matters to you. There is more satisfaction in life, you feel lighter. You manage your states better and don’t take your stress out on your kids.

You feel so much better about yourself. Your kids feel better. Atmosphere at home gets lifted. There’s connection with people you love. Whereas before a school run used to be a nightmare now it's an opportunity to have a chat on the way to school.

So what I want for you is that sense of aliveness and opening your heart to more love.

Because I've lived that life of ‘It's okay’, while not feeling OK at all.

When you live the life in color, you can see what's really going on. You're not seeing it through a dull and fuzzy filter. You can see clearly and then respond appropriately. Not from a reaction, but from that place of integrity and strength. You can feel your body, you can be authentic, honest with yourself and with other people.

You wake up.

Yes, there's a risk to waking up.

You may fear that if you wake up, then you'll see something that's so unpleasant, that it's gonna create havoc in your life. Well, chances are there’s something very unpleasant and it’s time to wake up and deal with it.

This is the risk worth taking because it can help you live a life that works for you.

I have walked this path. I've spent year on year on year where things were the same. It was soul destroying. I came out on the side and the contrast is unbelievable.

I know both sides of that coin well and I know what's possible when you wake up.

Let me help you to change your life.

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With all my love

Gulara