Why I haven’t made any new year resolutions this year
For the past decade or two, I’ve made new year resolutions every year. Looking back through some of my journals, I can see that none of them have materialised fully or as I intended.
Why?
Because what your conscious mind wants can be limited. Sometimes you want certain things because somehow you should fill in the blank [be richer/ slimmer/ happier] to fit in with other people’s expectations or to survive.
Now let’s add to this equation your subconscious mind which may find your ambitions threatening because you might attract unwanted attention, jealousy, envy, rejection and so much more.
Your subconscious is the storehouse of your being. It’s made up of all your past experiences, associated to any emotions, feelings and thoughts, usually formed in your earlier years.
Let’s say your conscious mind wants you to make more money in 2023.
Your subconscious mind will pull out a roster of all experiences where you had trouble with money, because it’s trying to protect you from getting hurt again. Say at school, you lost your money and somehow felt stupid; or perhaps you got bullied and had to give away all the spare change you had. So somewhere in your subconscious mind there’s a stored message that you’re no good with money. If so, you won’t fully trust your ability to manage money well or fear that something bad would happen and you’ll loose all that you’ve made through hard work. Why bother then?
The net effect? Without integrating your conscious desires with the needs of your subconscious mind for more safety and love, your new year resolutions wouldn’t work very well.
So long as your subconscious mind (which constitutes 90 to 95% of your mind) runs the show, your conscious mind (which is only 5 to 10% of your mind) is not likely to succeed no matter how hard you try.
What about you? Do your new year resolutions feel like wishful thinking or do you get behind them throughout a year? I'd love to hear.
For myself, instead of making new year resolutions, this year I’m concentrating on what is it that I want, so that I can remove barriers to my heart’s longing.
P.S. I’m running a 3 hour masterclass on 20 January at 11:45-14:45 UK time to help you do the same. Join me live now: www.gularavincent.co.uk/want
With all my love
Gulara