3 Ds That Block Your Wants

There are 3 Ds that block your wants:

1. Don’t Deserve It

There’s a part of you that believes that you don't deserve good things in life, that somehow you have to work really hard to get what you want, that even when you do all the right things, you still can’t receive what you desire, because of your past failures and mistakes.

Even though consciously you do believe that you deserve an amazing relationship and ample abundance, your subconscious mind may have different ideas.

If you're willing, try this with me. Take a comfortable breath in, straighten your posture and then say this out loud:

'I deserve to have what I want.'

Then tune into your body. On the scale of 1 to 10 (1 - this is not true, 10 - I can feel it in my bones), what number shows up for you? Your mind can give you inflated numbers, but your body never lies. Say the sentence again - you're not trying to convince yourself. This is a diagnostic statement to reveal any subconscious blocks. If you're willing, share your number with me. I'd love to know where you're right now. That number is not set in stone by the way. It can easily shift (see below).

2. Disappointment

If you’re blocking your desires, chances are that you carry deep disappointment from the past. There could be something that you really, really, REALLY wanted, which you either didn’t get or promptly lost. That unresolved heartbreak might still be blocking you from asking for what you want today. It’s as if it’s not even worth trying.

'What's the point? I'm not likely to get it.'

You collapse even before you try.
- What are the chances of me finding a soulmate? All the good ones are taken.
- What are the chances of me improving on my relationship? He/she won't change.
- What are the chances of me getting a pay rise or finding well-paying customers? There're better practitioners out there....

Everything feels beyond your reach.

The bottom line: It's not safe to want. It creates too much suffering and disappointment so when someone asks you 'What do you want?', you may shrug your shoulders and say: 'As it comes' or 'I don't know' or ‘Whatever you’d like’, leaving them responsible for trying to second guess what it is that you want. When they don’t get it right, it adds fuel to your disappointment and confirms your belief that you can never get what you want.

3. Detachment.

‘I didn’t want it anyway,’ you tell yourself.

It’s a great protective mechanism, where a part of you decides that it’s way safer not to even entertain what you want so that you don't have to feel the pain of not getting it in the first place.

For example, you might say 'I'm better off by myself.'

It helps you to protect yourself from rejection or pain of loosing someone you love dearly.

The net effect is that you close off your heart to things that you long for.

Constantly bracing yourself against the pain of heartbreak and disappointment keeps you small and stuck. Fear of imaginary pain creates an automatic resistance towards anything that your heart longs for.

Wanting is like breathing.

It’s OK to want what you want, however unreasonable, outrageous or unhealthy it might be. You want that for a reason, and that can be explored. You may not get what you want, but that is secondary to keeping your heart and mind open.

Wanting makes you feel alive.

It’s your birth right.

It’s an expression of your life force.

P.S. If you're ready to let go of resistance to what you want, join my Resistance Release Masterclass on 11 October at 12:00-15:00 UK time. https://www.gularavincent.co.uk/resistance-release

And if you join us by tomorrow, you'll get three guided audio healings on 1. releasing anger and rage; 2. accessing anxiety antidote and 3. re-wiring your nervous system to feel safe if you join by 4 October.

All details are here.

With all my love

Gulara