3 Reasons Why It’s So Hard to Get What You Want
I don’t know about you, but I have spent years feeling frustrated with not being able to have what I want. Whether it was a money goal or love life, it felt like things were out of my reach. I knew that I had all the potential but I couldn’t work out what was holding me back. I kept investing thousands of pounds into various programmes, without getting the results that I wanted.
With the hindsight, I can see three core reasons that blocked my wants, causing me so much confusion and pain.
Reason #1. Feeling conflicted.
Often what holds you back from getting what you want is an inner split. A part of you desperately wants what you want, and then another part may feel threatened by the possibility of having it.
For a long time, I had a money goal that I couldn’t reach, because there were parts of me that worried about tax implications, burnout, overwhelm, etc. So every time I took action to earn that money, I self-sabotaged and held myself back. It was only when I healed the split that I was able to move forward in my business.
Reason #2. Limiting beliefs.
Some of these beliefs go deep. If as a child you got a message that you can’t have what you want, it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. Even when the circumstances have changed, a part of you still runs that programme, because you were conditioned to only want what you can have.
Reason #3. It’s not safe.
If you’re struggling to have what you want, for example, your dream relationship or money goal, chances are it doesn’t feel safe to have it. It’s like this limitation became a part of your identity.
For example, you might think about yourself as a person who is always abandoned in the end. Having a reliable partner by your side is likely to threaten that old identity. You may not like your old identity, but you know how to navigate that terrain, whereas being in a stable happy relationship might feel really weird and unfamiliar.
Besides, what if you do get your dream relationship and it doesn’t make you happy? What if it’s safer to want things without running the risk of disappointment when it turns out that it wasn’t quite what you imagined it would be.
Which of these reasons do you resonate with and how do they hold you back in life?
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