I Want to Instill Enough-ness in My Children
I have an amazing client who is a mum of two young children. Her dedication to mothering them is truly inspiring. It’s like she wants to savour every waking moment that she’s got with them.
We had a session recently because she was struggling to make a decision around one of her children’s schooling options. She was worried that somehow the mainstream system may be damaging by conveying a message that children don’t know enough, or they are not good enough. So naturally, she wanted to protect her child from that pain.
‘I want to instill enough-ness into them,’ she said when I asked her to formulate an intention.
We used the intention constellation process (a branch of Family Constellations known as the Identity-Oriented Psychotrauma Therapy) and worked with parts of her that felt worried.
What we uncovered in that process was her deep sense of unworthiness that she carried at a deeply subconscious level.
Of course she wanted to protect her children from feeling that feeling of unworthiness. It's so natural.
But you can't make your children feel enough, if you don’t transmit that energy.
Children don’t do as they are told. They do what they see and feel.
This is why trying to instill enough-ness in children doesn't work. What’s more, if you want to instill enough-ness in your children, the presumption is that somehow they are not enough as they are. You can't give them something that you've never had yourself. You need to live it and model it to them, so that they can feel enough.
By the end of the session my client's sense of self was so deeply transformed. There was peace around the decision regarding the schooling and she was in tears from seeing her children whole and complete.
Enough-ness starts with you.
I'm running a 4-month course on learning to feel more than enough. www.gularavincent.co.uk/more-than-enough. And if you join me now, you can get four bonus 3-hour masterclasses for free. The first masterclass 'Who Am I?' is on Tuesday 6 September 12:00-15:00.
Join me for your own healing and your children’s sake.
Here's what my clients say about working with me:
By far the most impactful session ever experienced in my life. It feels like all my unanswered questions in this life, complicated patterns and scattered insights were brought together – healed- in a very clear and powerful way… I saw things I never understood fall into alignement, it was amazing how so many aspects were revealed and covered and given the perfect compassion! Gulara is beyond safe, beyond loving and beyond gifted in her facilitations and service. A 1000% recommendation, with ease and grace ♥️ Thank you so much
—Ineke G. in Netherlands ★★★★★
My session with Gulara was amazing, it was beyond all my expectations. Before the session i thought of what to say, what i want to clear and so on but there was no need for that at all. From the beginning of the session she took me to a smooth clearing journey and she was so professional and so precise, at one point i felt like she could read my mind 🙂 I was so suprised and impressed by the accuracy of the clearing statements. I repeated the English clearing statements in Turkish and that was a nice warm conversation between us. I was lucky that she knew Turkish and translated few words when i couldn’t remember 🙂 I definitely recommend Gulara’s beautiful guidance. Thank you so much Gulara 🙏🏻❤️
—Zeynep T. in Bursa, Turkey ★★★★★
Oh wow…that was the most beautiful heart centered healing session I had with Gulara. Her kind eyes, voice and compassionate energy and spot on intuition just helped melt the ice that had frozen in my heart and felt so dark and heavy. For the first time I feel free and relieved, heard, seen, safe. It’s a beautiful feeling and I can’t wait to see what unfolds in the next few days. Absolutely grateful for this session.
—Anonymous in Virginia US. Q ★★★★★
With all my love
Gulara