How to heal from narcissistic relationships
I grew up with several members of my immediate family showing some narcissistic traits. As a child, you have no idea why adults behave in a particular way. All you can do is to try harder to please them, to anticipate what they may want and to fulfil their needs and desires.
If you have been in a narcissistic relationships, it’s essential to get to the core of the issue. Without healing the origin stories, which created the preconditions for these relationships, the patterns will keep playing out.
That’s exactly what happened in my life. Because this energy was so familiar, I ended up in abusive relationships with narcissists throughout my 20s and early 30s. They made me doubt my sanity and even my reality. They projected their own insecurities and inferiorities onto me. My sense of self was tarnished; I was plagued with self-doubt and shame, lost, confused and unable to make any decisions without their approval.
It took me a long time to heal this damage, but I’m on the other side now in a loving partnership where every aspect of me feels safe, seen and heard. My ability to set clear boundaries is so much stronger. I’m surrounded by people who make me feel safe. Last but not least, I can trust myself now. I trust my intuition, my discernment and my ability to make sound decisions.
Here’re a few lessons I learnt on the journey of healing from narcissistic relationships:
1. When you’re with a narcissist, you become invisible. It’s all about their wants and needs. They praise you when you meet their expectations, and savagely knock you down when you don’t. Reclaim your life, so that you can finally feel seen!
2. Narcissists often control and manipulate their victims, setting unreasonable standards. You can feel utterly out of control in your life. Letting go of this legacy can bring sense of safety and trust in yourself and other people.
3. When you live with a narcissist, your whole energy field gets shredded. It’s incredibly damaging to your psyche, when you feel gaslighted and have to walk on eggshells. Releasing their energy from your field can help you to feel yourself again.
4. Narcissists are often attracted to your need to give in order to feel useful. By reclaiming your sense of worth, you no longer have to over-give to justify your existence. By letting go of toxic bonds, you can reclaim your self-esteem and confidence.
Ready to heal?
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