Overcoming Fear of Rejection

1. The reason it can be difficult to deal with rejection in your life is because it could have imprinted deep into your subconscious long before you had conscious memories. Let's say your mother wasn't ready for you when she found out that she was pregnant with you. Perhaps she was too young/ too old/ had several children already/ had several miscarriages and didn't want to get her hopes up again/ they wanted a boy or a girl and you didn't fit the description... It can be a long list. Obviously, you meant to be here and your parents did the best they could to welcome you, but that initial ‘oh no, I don't want this baby’ can go deep into your psyche without realising it. This can be healed though and that's one of the purposes of the recording I'm sharing below.

2. When you constantly expect being rejected, you learn to reject yourself first.
'There's no point in applying for that job/ promotion etc. They won't have me anyway.'
'I can't possibly charge clients X amount. No one would pay me that!'
'There's no point in showing any interest in that person. There are so many pretty girls around, they won't even look in my direction.'
Speaking from experience: rejecting yourself is so much more painful than when others do it to you, but somehow when you were younger you may have made a conclusion that if you have already rejected yourself, it won’t hurt as much when others do it to you.

3. Fear of rejection can keep you stuck and it can create its own problems too. Let's say you want something: a new job/ partner/ healthy body.
- You can't stop thinking about it and it can trigger a bout of anxiety because you can get attached to a particular outcome;
- This anxiety may fuel your addictions, so you may start comfort eating or numbing your pain in some other ways;
- This in turn can have an effect on your body image and confidence, causing shame to be seen;
- You hold yourself back and compromise somehow (settle for the job you already have/ for a less suitable partner, etc.)
- This can trigger your anger with yourself and others, and you may accidentally push them away...
So when you heal the root of your fear of rejection, many other issues in your life may find their resolution too.
I hope that you enjoy the recording. Let me know how you get on.

https://www.gularavincent.co.uk/overcoming-fear-of-rejection

With all my love
Gulara