I can’t justify spending money on *myself*
I have women who feel drawn to working with me, but sometimes they hold back from committing, even though the opportunity is tugging at them. By far the common reason is I can’t justify spending that much on myself, when my kids need X, Y and Z.
Now, I have a lot of empathy towards those women who genuinely can’t afford to do the work. I come from a poor family where choices were limited by money, so I know well the pain of wanting something and not being able to access it. So, if that’s you, my heart goes out to you.
Yet, I want to explore the part that says ‘I can’t justify spending that much on myself’. This may be controversial, but my take is that’s exactly why you need to spend that money on yourself.
If you don’t feel worthy of your own money, at some unconscious level, you are modelling self-sacrifice to your children.
I can only speak from my own experience. I have invested a lot of money into my own healing. A lot. For years and years that was pretty much the only thing I spent money on (except for food and basics).
And all because of my kids.
Not only I am able to offer them more financial safety and security as a result of doing all the inner work, but also they get more of me.
When I am healed and whole, what I offer my children is my presence. I can model healthy loving behaviour that no amount of stuff can give them.
When I heal the ancestral blocks that got in my own way, they don’t have to carry those patterns forward.
I heal for me and I heal for them.
This is by far the biggest passion I have in life.
As in anything in life, it’s about balance. I’m not suggesting that you go out and spend all your money on your healing and leave the kids hungry at home.
It’s just the next time you think ‘I can’t justify spending money on myself’, see if your budget allows you to reframe this belief.
Because when you choose you, you teach your children to value themselves too.
Here are a few ways you can invest in yourself:
1. Attend my next healing retreat in the UK on 14-17 September. In my experience, constellations are by far the most effective way of healing www.gularavincent.co.uk/blog/retreats
2. Join my practitioner training and let me teach you all I know so that you can support yourself (level 1) and/or your clients (level 2). www.gularavincent.co.uk/integrated-constellations
3. Attend my next 5-week course 'End Emotional Eating' www.gularavincent.co.uk/end-emotional-eating. There's a super early bird rate right now so take advantage of the discount.
4. Come to my next masterclass 'Principles of Pleasure' on 21 July at 6-9pm UK time/ 1-4pm EST www.gularavincent.co.uk/principles-of-pleasure
With all my love
Gulara