Why Your Good Intentions Alone Are Not Enough
Picture this:
A girl is born into this world. Her mother is not able to open her heart to the child fully, because she feels depressed. It’s like she lost a part of herself she can’t remember or reclaim. From this place, she feels like she’s in the wrong life, and nothing is quite to her liking. She does her best with bringing up the child, but for most parts, the girl is left to her own devices: she’s left to cry at nights, she learns to entertain herself, she desperately tries to figure out what could make her mummy happy.
The child grows up into a young woman and has her own child. She vows she would never be like her mother. She has a healthy daughter and for a while things appear to be right, but then she looses a boy child prematurely and feels consumed by grief. Her relationship with the husband deteriorates. Nothing is quite right. She is depressed and lost, unsure how to move forward. The girl child feels neglected and desperately tries to figure out what could make her mummy happy.
That child grows up into a young woman...
And unless as a mother, you heal your grief and break the cycle, the story repeats over and over again. Seemingly different circumstances, and plenty of good intentions, but at some deeply unconscious level, you repeat your family stories out of solidarity and deep desire for belonging. If the mother was not allowed to be happy, somewhere you’re sacrificing your own happiness too.
Here're a few ways to break this cycle:
1. Attend my next healing retreat in the UK on 14-17 September. In my experience, constellations are by far the most effective way to heal inter-generational trauma www.gularavincent.co.uk/blog/retreats
2. Join my practitioner training and let me teach you all I know so that you can support yourself (level 1) and/or your clients (level 2). www.gularavincent.co.uk/integrated-constellations
3. Attend my next 5-week course 'End Emotional Eating' www.gularavincent.co.uk/end-emotional-eating. There's a super early bird rate right now so take advantage of the discount.
4. If all else fails, come to my next masterclass 'Principles of Pleasure' on 21 July at 6-9pm UK time/ 1-4pm EST www.gularavincent.co.uk/principles-of-pleasure
With all my love
Gulara