What’s Your Mother’s Trauma?
I was working with a client recently who wanted to free her authentic self and unlock her creativity.
Right from the start of the session she mentioned that she felt a lot of shame in life. This shame, which didn’t have a particular story attached to it, felt very old, so I took her back to her mother’s womb. Indeed, it transpired that her dad was abusive towards her mother while my client was in the womb, and her mother felt a lot of shame around being mistreated like that. We did some healing but it felt like we touched the tip of an iceberg.
‘Do you know what was your mother’s trauma,’ I asked something I don’t normally ask.
‘Oh yes,’ the client said and relayed the story of her mother’s traumatic life.
Her mother came from a family who was persecuted for their ethnic origin. They had to flee their home, loosing her older siblings in the process of relocation. Her traumatised and broke parents couldn’t cope and sent her off to an orphanage at the age of 6. She had never recovered from that separation, blaming herself and her physical defects for their decision. Feeling deeply unlovable, she chose a man who mistreated her. She spent the rest of her life feeling unfulfilled and unhappy.
Now decades on, her daughter feels unfulfilled and unhappy. She was essentially living her mother’s story: different circumstances, but the same energetic pattern. Every time something good happened, she sabotaged herself, as if happiness felt dangerous and unreliable.
This is surprisingly common in life.
Whether you’re aware of it or not, you take on your mother’s stories, especially if she was not able to resolve them for herself. You do it unconsciously out of love, loyalty and solidarity with your mother, even if you have a difficult relationship with her. So this hurt and pain get passed down from one generation to another until someone stops and says enough is enough.
Are you ready to do it for yourself and the generations to come?
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