How suppressed emotions lead to feeling not enough

I don’t know about you, but I often gravitate to feeling joy and fulfilment and reject my experiences of sadness and anger.

What about you?

Which of your experiences do you want more of? Perhaps you crave more joy, happiness and excitement? You then put a lot of effort in chasing those emotions, and avoiding your feelings of anger and upset.

It’s so human, isn’t it.

But this constant motion of pushing away ‘negative’ experiences and striving for ‘positive’ ones can create an inner split. You’re then trapped in this dynamic, feeling that you can never ‘get there’, i.e. the place of bliss and peace.

But your experiences are not optional. You get the whole spectrum of emotions whether you like it or not. And it’s often the contrast that makes you appreciate positive emotions more. What meaning would ‘joy’ have, if you have never known ‘sorrow’? If you don’t feel grief, it means you don’t care about anything enough to feel the sadness when you loose it.

You meant to feel it all.

Emotions are simply signals. Sometimes it’s not safe to feel anger, for example. You then adapt to your circumstances. The trouble is it’s hard to see the adaptation when it’s been your ‘normal’ for so long. Without realising it, you might be spending lots of energy avoiding getting angry.

What if enough-ness is only possible when you’re not caught in pull-push dynamics? What if bliss comes from making space for all of your experiences? 

There’s relaxation that comes with acceptance of what is. To do that you need to heal experiences which have created the inner split. 

P.S. If you’re trapped in pull-push dynamics, join ‘Already Enough’, my 3-hour masterclass, where you’ll have an opportunity to heal your relationship with the part of you that does not feel good enough.

P.P.S. I’m also running a FREE 5-day challenge on 9-13 June called ‘Good Enough’. Join me live to understand why you react in particular ways, when you’re in lack.

With all my love

Gulara